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7 tips for fostering open dialogue and trust with your teen

By HBF
4 min
29 October 2024
Mother talking to her daughter
Parenting a teenager is no walk in the park.

Between hormones, academic pressure and social drama, there’s no denying the teenage years are tough. Sometimes however, parenting a teen can feel even tougher. One minute they’re demanding more independence and space, and the next they’re frustrated you can’t magically read their mind.

In this blog, we explore 7 practical tips for fostering open dialogue and trust with your teen.

1. Create regular check-in moments (without the pressure)

Not every conversation with your teen needs to be a serious sit-down discussion. Sometimes, the best way to open the lines of communication is by creating low-pressure moments where conversations can happen naturally.

Whether it’s during the ride home from school, while doing chores together (gardening can be a great one), or over dinner, these regular check-ins can become routine opportunities for your teen to talk if something is on their mind. The key is to make these moments part of your routine, without demanding they open up every time.

2. Listen more than you speak

So, your teen has finally opened up – amazing! While it can be tempting to jump in with advice or a solution, sometimes the most valuable thing you can offer is to simply listen. Let your teen express their thoughts and feelings fully before offering your perspective.

By showing you’re truly listening – without immediately reacting or correcting – you’ll reinforce that their opinions and experiences are valued. Make an effort to reflect back what they’ve said, for example, “It sounds like you’re feeling really stressed about school.” By actively listening, it’ll help them feel understood and more likely to open up in the future.

3. Respect their privacy while being available

Dealing with teens can feel like walking a tricky tightrope – they need space to figure things out on their own, but also need to know you’re there if they need support. Respecting their privacy – like knocking before entering their room or giving them space during emotional moments – can go a long way in building trust.

At the same time, make it clear that you’re always available if they want to talk, no matter how big or small the issue. This balance of respecting boundaries while being present is key to fostering a relationship built on trust.

4. Validate their feelings without dismissing concerns

It’s easy to fall into the trap of minimising teen concerns with phrases like, “You’ll look back on this and laugh,” or “It’s not as bad as it seems.” While these comments are often well-meaning, they can come across as dismissive. Instead, validate their feelings by acknowledging that what they’re experiencing is real and important to them.

You might say, “I can see how that would be really frustrating” or “It’s understandable that you’re feeling overwhelmed.” By validating their emotions, you create a safe space for them to express themselves openly.

5. Be honest about your own experiences

Teens can sometimes forget their parents are people too, so it’s important to be honest when sharing your own experiences. While it’s crucial to keep your stories age-appropriate, being open about challenges you’ve faced and how you dealt with them (or even how you struggled) can help build connection. Sharing your own uncertainties, mistakes, and what you learned from them can make you more relatable and show your teen that they’re not alone in facing difficulties.

6. Approach difficult conversations calmly

When sensitive topics come up, it’s important to stay calm and composed. Reacting with anger or panic can cause your teen to shut down and keep things from you in the future, especially if they’re sharing something difficult.

If you need a moment to collect your thoughts, it’s okay to take a pause before responding. Take a deep breath and count to 10. Approaching tough conversations with patience and understanding helps build trust and encourages your teen to bring concerns to you rather than hiding them.

7. Follow through on promises

Trust is built on consistency and reliability. If you promise to be there for your teen – whether it’s attending a school event, being home at a certain time, or keeping something confidential – it’s crucial to follow through.

Don’t forget that even the smallest of commitments matter. When your teen sees that they can count on you, they’re more likely to share their thoughts and worries, knowing they have your support and that they’re a priority in your life.

Fostering open dialogue and trust with your teen takes time, consistent effort, and a whole lot of patience. By listening without judgment, validating their feelings, and respecting their need for privacy and independence, you can create a safe environment where your teen feels comfortable sharing their thoughts and concerns.


This article contains general information only and does not take into account the health, personal situation or needs of any person. In conjunction with your GP or treating health care professional, please consider whether the information is suitable for you and your personal circumstances.